Hello Kat,

You asked, “How can the husband remember his wife or do you mean they can only remember their last lives?”

Yes, we do have all the same memories we have when we transition off of the Earth vibration. The mind is actually independent of the body while we’re on the Earth plane, but is constrained by the rules of the body and uses the body as the instrument while on the Earth plane. What you are now, with your personality, attitudes, loves, fears, desires, and memories are unchanged when you stop using the body. The body has nothing to do with those. The person you are is in your mind, not in the body, and when the body goes away, your mind just keeps on going.

As a result, when we stop using the body, the mind just goes on without it as it did before. We remember everything about our childhood, our growth, momentous moments, and all the rest of our lives just as we do now.

However, the many past lives we’ve had are part of the knowledge and memory of the Higher Self we are. They aren't accessible to the individual we are on the Earth plane. As we mature away from the Earth plane and grow into our next environments, we eventually can recall the past lives and understand how they integrate with the individual who was just on the Earth plane. The knowledge doesn’t come suddenly, and may not for some time. But eventually, we can recall them.

You wrote, “I have read mixed stories about intimacy in or with the afterlife. Some say it is possible via dream visits or astral projection, others say is carnal and wrong to even think it and still others say it is something about which he has no interest.”

There is so much ignorance, supposition, and superstition about the other planes of eternal life. You just have to be very careful about whom you listen to. Everything I know comes from information provided by people living on the next plane of life, and it is repeated or corroborated by all of those who speak from there. The idea that sex is “carnal” is a purely physical realm point of view characteristic of religions. No one on the other side whom I have heard speaking suggests there’s something wrong with sex. As to whether we’ll have an interest in sex, we are exactly the same when we transition into the next plane of life as we are now. If we loved smoking cigars, we’ll still love smoking cigars. If we liked beer and pizza, we’ll still like beer and pizza. The part of sexual desire that is in the mind, not the body, will still be there in the same way.

I have heard only one person speaking from the other side in a Leslie Flint séance say something about sex on the next plane of life. He said he didn’t know of anyone who had engaged in it there, but had heard something about it in one instance.

But we can conjecture based on what we know about the next plane of life. Everything we expect and want is there. The plane we’re on now, the Earth plane, is a spiritual plane. The next plane will look just like this plane, with our bodies, houses, trees, birds, flowers, concerts, plays, and all the rest of what we have on the Earth spiritual plane, but without the negatives such as ticks and diseases. What we have there is based on what we want and need. If we feel the need to eat and drink, we can eat and drink there. It isn’t that we ask for it. It’s just there based on our wants and needs. I know of one account of someone speaking in a Leslie Flint séance describing living for years with a family he had known on the Earth plane, smoking his pipe and enjoying life as he had on the Earth plane with them. Of course, the smoking wouldn’t have a deleterious effect on the body because in that plane, there is no disease or deterioration. He was able to smoke because he wanted to and expected to be able to do so. As a result, pipes and tobacco were simply there. He had all the sensations of smoking, but there were no problems with it. Eventually, he lost the desire for it.

I would expect that the same thing would be true of sex. The bodies we have on the next plane of life are just like the ones we have here. So it would seem to be possible. During the early time when we transition onto the next plane from the Earth plane, we’ll have all the Earth vibration desires and attitudes. We can eat if we want, and I would expect that if two people had a real need to have sex, that would be possible for them. They would simply have the ability. They wouldn’t have to ask for it or think about having it.

Eventually, then, everyone does mature away from the Earth plane, and many things we thought were important become unimportant, such as eating, drinking, smoking, and likely sex. But that’s a gradual change we experience because we want it. It isn’t forced on us. Everything happens through our free will and maturation.

So, I would guess, and it’s only a guess without much data from the next plane of life, that if two people really wanted to have a sexual relationship, they would have.

You wrote,”Does spirit communication change after a few months (now that he's convinced me there is an afterlife, we do survive and it is him visiting).”

Yes, it does change. We hear people on the next plane of life saying they’ll be moving up to other levels as they mature and spend time on the next plane of life. You see, our growth and change continues. As the person on the next plane of life realizes that you’re fine and you’ll be having a reunion with them in no time, and that you have to get on with your life just as they have to get on with theirs, being on the Earth vibration with you becomes less important. That doesn’t mean the person loves you any less. It just means that now it’s time to go to the next stages of our lives.

It’s like going away to school. When you first leave your family or the love of your life and go to college out of state, you’re calling every day and sending letters. Then, as the weeks go on, you likely have less contact. You’re busy at school. They’re busy in their endeavors. Your love is the same, but you just have less contact. That’s what it’s like.

However, your loved one is still accessible, and receives thoughts when you think of them or when there’s a special occasion like a birthday and you’re wishing them happy birthday. And they’ll come to you then. They’ll be at someone’s wedding or funeral. They do come at special times or when you're worried or in need of comfort. But the day-to-day contact may be less strong and frequent. Don’t worry, though. He’s fine and still loves you.

Love and peace, Craig