Hi Bianca,

I'm so sorry this life is such a struggle for you. I know understanding why this life is such a struggle won't really help relieve your burden at this moment, but I will explain what we know so you can begin to change things.

You and I and anyone who reads this are here at this time on the Earth plane because it has lessons to teach us. This is a very difficult time in this plane's history, and on it, we're having experiences with the broadest range of people and difficulties. We've all chosen to be here, as you know, but that doesn't make the struggles any less difficult.

What you must have are hope and control. You must know that you will make it through the struggles, even if only when you transition off of the Earth plane. And you must feel in control--that although you can't change the physical realm, you can learn how to cope with it, and change the way you experience it.

It's difficult to feel hope and feel in control. They depend on where you are in your mental state. And looking at the goals from the feeling of hopelessness and lack of control makes them seem far away and impossible. But I can tell you what you need to do over the long term, that eventually will make a difference.

To feel hope, learn about who we are in eternity, and spend in meditation or prayer or connection with loved ones who have gone on to the next life before us. Open dialogues on forums such afterlifeforums.com. Talk to people, and while in meditation, ask questions and wait for answers. You are an eternal being having a physical experience. Everything will pass, and after it passes, you'll find yourself stronger and wiser.

To feel in control, open options in every area in which you feel you have no control. If you have no money, make it your job to find out about government resources, to clip coupons, to reduce expenses, and whatever it requires to take control. Tackle each area in which you feel you have no control, one at a time, and take control.

If you feel alone, get with people. If you feel unfulfilled, volunteer at a social service agency. If the people around you are negative and bring you down, try to surround yourself with loving, positive people and try to avoid or ignore the negative, self-absorbed people. But take action, and take control.

Realize that you're not doing this alone. You're being given resources and guidance from your guides, your loved ones on the next plane of life, and the Higher Power. They're with you continually, and you just have to be confident in that and listen.

When you do whatever it takes to feel hope, and you tackle whatever tasks you must tackle to feel in control, you'll be learning lessons, and you'll be better able to teach others the lessons, especially your daughter.

You and I have chosen to be here. That means we'll learn what we needed to learn and become more capable and happier. That's the inevitable end result if we stay the course and take action. But it takes baby steps away, turning away from despair and looking toward a future with hope and control. That's difficult, but it has to happen. And you will succeed. You will succeed.

Love and peace, Crag