Hi Craig,
I have connected with my husband who passed some mobths ago many times and it is very comforting but still hard to know I won't be with him physically anymore here. What you say is true...that I must work on developing a new relationship with him. I have spoken with him through a medium and he sends me messages a lot. When I spoke with him he told me he would be there for me when I pass but that I would live a long time. I told him I do not want another partner on this plane as he was my true love but to be honest, if I live 40 more years that is a long time alone. Again, I know, I am not alone and perhaps need to put my focus on other things I can do and connect with in this life. In our conversation he said I must do what I need to do to get by here and that he accepts it if I touch or be close to another man but that he does not want me to have sex!! That he wants that just for him! I laughed as that is not what I want with someone else but find it unreal that he would say that! I feel comforted but unsettled...it is not like a breakup to have your spouse pass...and not as cut and dried to move on. Please help me understand how to do this...I battle with wishing I could just go be with him and also know I must carry on and do things here. How do I know he isn't meeting up with a new/old soul he may prefer over me and having a relationship until I pass? It feels strange that he can know all I do and I cannot know what he does. I love him more than anything and want us both to know we will unite again but I am human...what if I do have a relationship? Will he forgive me?? I do not believe I will as I truly know he has not "died" and would feel terrible guilt to meet anyone else... it is just taking time to understand all of this.
Your thoughts are appreciated....