: Hello Ninn,

: You wrote, "In our conversation he said I must do what I need to do to get by here and that he accepts it if I touch or be close to another man but that he does not want me to have sex!! . . . I find it unreal that he would say that!"

: When someone crosses over to the next plane, they're still the same person, with all the attitudes, personality, fears, desires, and all the rest that go along with whom we are. We don't change.

: We don't change from being a pre-pubescent child to being pubescent on our thirteenth or fourteenth birthday. We move from pre-pubescent to pubescence gradually, even though that results in remarkable changes.

: In the same way, your husband is exactly the same person he was on the Earth plane, but is growing gradually. He may still be possessive. You have to make your own decisions as you would if he were on the Earth plane, but permanently relocated to some place on the planet where you could never see him again. And he eventually will accept your decisions in love. Possessiveness isn't a consequence of love.

: And things change over time. No one can decide what their course will be for the rest of their life. You're speculating about what your life must be like in five or ten or twenty years from now. But you and your husband won't be the same people you are now. You're changing and he's changing. You'll be two different people in five years. Live in the now. Let tomorrow take care of itself.

: You wrote, "How do I know he isn't meeting up with a new/old soul he may prefer over me and having a relationship until I pass?"

: I've never heard of someone striking up a relationship on the next plane of life and forgetting a loved one here. But in any event, live your life and confront challenges as they appear to you. Fretting over what might happen just creates needless worry. Relax and let your life unfold. You can make decisions when your circumstances change. You don't have to make all of the decisions for the rest of your life today.

: We hear repeatedly from those on the next plane of life that they want those who were their partners on Earth to live full lives, without restrictions. As one man said to his lover on this plane, "Be happy!" That was his most fervent wish. Whatever it takes for the person on this side of life to be happy and live a full life is desirable. The possessiveness will fall away. Don't frett over tomorrow. Live your life today.

: Love and peace, Craig