Hi Sue,

You wrote, “It is our Wedding Anniversary and I just dreamt that he rejected me. I was trying to kiss him and asking him if he loved me in the dream and he seemed to be disinterested or just going through the motions. . . I am always frightened . . .”

Sue, when you feel fear, rejection, or being pushed away, it isn’t coming from him. That just isn’t characteristic of our contacts with those who have transitioned to the next plane of life. They always come to us with love, concern, and a desire for closeness. If there are any negative feelings, they’re from the Earth mind and body. Don’t assume that because something came in a dream that it’s a visit from him.

That’s especially true in times when you are in grief, such as your wedding anniversary. The negative feelings feed your worst fears and what comes to you is all of the most dire imaginings.
When you have a real connection, it will be when you’re relaxed, not expecting it. You’ll have a profound sense of warmth, love, and closeness. There will be no negative feelings. You’ll have a clear sense of the message that’s coming to you. You’ll be surprised by the messages. They’re not coming from you.

If it isn’t like that, then it’s a bad dream. Don’t be upset by it. It’s part of being human. Push it aside and wait for real communication. Don’t let fear keep you from talking and listening.

As for relationships, the love he feels will be even greater, because any Earthly pettiness drops away. Don’t worry about “going on with your life.” When you’re ready to consider that, you’ll feel and know what you’re to do. Don’t rush yourself. Relax. Enjoy his company and communicate with him. Take one day at a time. Let the future take care of itself. Don’t try to make it into what you believe it should be right now.

Love and peace, Craig