Hello Steve,

You asked,
Do people stay married in the afterlife?

People maintain a loving relationship, but don't have the narrow possessive nature we do on the Earth plane. We don't have to feel we "own" someone, as in being "married" to one person. If you think about marriage, it's entirely a physical-realm activity. But we love many people: parents, children, best friends, and even more than one spouse. The difference is that on the next plane of life, the need to possess one person isn't there. We can live with more than one person we've loved on a variety of levels, or we or they may choose not to live with someone. We're not forced to do anything. We make the choices.

You asked,
Do we still have sex organs and do we still enjoy having sex?

One person from the other side, asked that question, said he could imagine it among people who were tied to the Earth plane and wanted to have a life identical to Earth, but he hadn't heard of it anywhere. No one I've heard speak from the other side describes sex or procreation.

You asked,
Considering the possibility that we have had many marriages and relationships in past lives, even assuming both gender roles, it is interesting to consider how we relate to each other in the afterlife, especially as we carry forward our emotions, jealousies, etc. Say for example, my wife and I are killed in a car accident. On the other side we reunite with our spirit family, and let's say I have a reunion with someone I was passionately in love with in a past life, perhaps even a gay relationship or a reversal of gender roles with someone else. Would my wife be jealous, especially if there is sex in the afterlife and we are capable of re-sparking a hot relationship with an old flame?

When we first cross over, we carry all the same emotions. We don't change in an instant. That means that for a while, we may feel sad, angry, jealous, and all the other Earth emotions. We grow out of that there, just as we could on the Earth plane if we just got over the pettiness and feeling of separation we have. The separation is an illusion.

You asked,
The other question that comes to mind is how we express love and affection in the afterlife (sex, hugging, kissing, handshakes, etc). Is there a better, more preferred way of expressing these emotions?

The afterlife is just like this life. People don't understand that. They think it's an airy fairy kind of spirit life. It isn't. Imagine that you woke up one morning in another country that was entirely new to you. You'd go to the window and look at the scenery. You'd walk out into the kitchen and talk to people living there. You'd walk out the door and stroll down the street. That's exactly what it's like on the next plane of life, although colors are more vibrant, the temperature is always pleasant, and there's a source of light that isn't the sun. There are other differences as well, but it is just like this life. It's like being in another country.

You asked,
I believe we are all part of very large soul families in the afterlife and unlike life on Earth where we have only one specific relationship to one another (mother, father, friend, etc.), in the afterlife we remember all of the relationships and roles we shared with each other over many lifetimes. One particular soul for example, could have been my son in one lifetime, my mother in another lifetime and my spouse in yet another. Reuniting with family on the other side certainly takes on a whole new meaning in that sense. Then of course, there are the relationships we share on the other side that are not connected with any past lives (physical incarnations).

Yes. But we don't suddenly change and have this kind of social feeling. We are carrying on as who we are, but just with different circumstances. It's as though you woke in that new country and because you were there, you learned new lessons about people and life. The change in circumstances gives you different perspectives. You learn and grow. Over time, you have a different perspective because of being in the afterlife, but it's just a matter of growing. The next plane of life is just a new job or a new country where you learn new things. It's a smooth transition.

You asked,
Do we carry on with the personality and traits of the person we were in our most previous lifetime, or could we assume any of our personalities in any of our past lives? What's confusing to me is that if I was a black woman in a past life, an American indian in another past life, and a white male in this life, which personality would I assume in the afterlife?

We don't change. We've just in different surroundings. Our bodies do take on the form we had when we were in our prime, in the late 20s or early 30s, and all deformities and injuries disappear. Otherwise, we're the same person. We carry through with the same personality we had on Earth until we've matured to the point where we can understand, accept, and learn from the other people we may have been. At that point, we'll remember what we learned and become the whole person with many lessons learned from other "lives," although the Earth plane isn't the only place we learn lessons. Everything that happens is comfortable and never shocking. We recall our experiences from other lives as we've able mentally to assimilate them. We keep our individuality from every life and our family unit and loved ones stay together until we're all ready to mature to the next plane, where we may learn still together or may involve others or may go off to do something else. It's just like being on Earth and deciding to take a job in another country, though. We can always come back and always be with the individuals we loved during this lifetime.

You asked,
Do we appear to other soulmates as we appeared when we shared a physical life together? Or, do we simply have one main "etherial" personality (that evolves as we grow spiritually) and consider all of our physical incarnations as character roles like actors in a play?

Yes, nothing changes in our personalities, and the body is just younger, but recognizable as us. We just continue and there learn more. If we decide we want to experience and learn, we may go to another plane of existence or even incarnate again on the Earth plane.

Love and peace, Craig